To write or not to write. Many will tell you their stories of writing birth plans and that those plans never went to plan. As a result many couples opt not to write them for fear of this happening to them.
I'm going to tell you otherwise and instead of writing a 'plan' write 'preferences'
Creating birth preferences allows you to advocate for your birthing choices and gives your care provider a clear understanding on what type of birth you would like to achieve, this allows everyone to remain on the same path during the birth.
When writing birth preferences, you are essentially setting goals on the ideal birth you would like to achieve. Your birth preferences should include your ideas, intentions, needs and wants during birth. When writing your preferences it is important to keep the mindset of
‘I am willing to calmly meet whatever circumstances arise during birth’
Birth can be beautiful but also unpredictable, remember your little baby does not know what you are putting down on paper, so it is important to remain flexible. Keep your preferences ideally to two-three pages and in dot point format so it is easy for care providers to follow and understand.
Many of you have asked to read my birth preferences from William's birth so I have attached the document below. You can use this template or a similar one. My last tip, show your preferences and discuss them with your midwife or obstetrician before the birth.